Love is a verb

This is a story i found in “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R.Covey. Remarkable book that i haven’t finished yet, even i started read it in 2005. Dulu pertama kali baca buku ini saya tertarik banget, karena ide-idenya  keren, bagus banget, inspiring. Saya berhenti baca karena males, hehe. Mungkin waktu itu emang belum ada kebutuhan untuk hal-hal pengembangan diri, masih muda. Belakangan ini saya buka lagi buku ini, sekarang ngerasa tertarik kembali, mungkin karena banyak pikiran kemudian butuh ide mencerahkan. Well, ini salah satu cerita yang membuat saya berhenti sejenak membaca bukunya dan kemudian merenung.

At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, “Stephen. I like what you’re saying.  But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”

“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.
“That’s right,” he reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
” Love her.” I replied
“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore.”
“Love her.”
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love-the feeling-is a fruit of love, a verb. So love her. serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Emphathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”

In great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feeling. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifice you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized though loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love the feeling, can be recaptured.

Perjalanan hidup banyak dihiasi masalah, apapun jenisnya, yang sering membuat  kesal, memutar balikkan mood, dan sebagainya. But sometimes the problem is on us, the way we see the problem is the problem. Seringkali berharap lebih terhadap seseorang, atau ingin sesuatu berjalan sesuai dengan kemauan, tapi bila yang terjadi tidak sesuai dengan harapan, itu membuat kesal. People don’t change. Maybe we must stop thinking to change others, and start to shift our paradigm.

 

HASTA BRATA

Alkisah, waktu saya pulang ke Bekasi, di kamar papa terpajang hiasan wayang. Saya ini wong jowo, Solo. Sebelumnya papa pernah bercerita tentang karakter pemimpin ideal berdasarkan orang jawa, well, mungkin Solo pada khususnya. Kemudian beliau bercerita sedikit tentang hiasan wayang itu, dan menunjukkan kertas berisi keterangan Hasta Brata. Yang menarik adalah penggunaan metafora benda-benda maupun fenomena di alam ini sebagai filosofi. Mungkin agar kita bisa selalu ingat bahwa dialam ini terdapat pelajaran yang sangat berharga bagi manusia(sperti di dalam Al Quran juga). Kurang lebih begini isinya:

Hasta Brata merupakan delapan ajaran kepemimpinan berdasarkan hal-hal di alam ini, ajaran itu berupa watak yang ideal dimiliki oleh pemimpin

1. Watak Matahari : dapat meberikan kehidupan, semangat, dan energi bagi anak buahnya
2. Watak Bulan : dapat menyenangkan dan memberi penerangan dikala dalam kegelapan.
3. Watak Bintang : dapat menjadi contoh teladan, serta pedoman bagi anak buahnya
4. Watak Angin : dapat melakukan tidnakan yang cermat, mau turun ke lapangan
5. Watak Mendung : berwibawa, namun dalam tindakannya bermanfaat bagi anak buahnya
6. Watak Api : dapat bertindak adil, mempunyai prinsip, tegas tanpa pandang bulu
7. Watak Samodra : berpandangan luas, sanggup menerima segala persoalan tanpa pilih kasih
8. Watak Bumi : Sentosa budinya, jujur, mau memberi anugerah kepada siapa saja yang telah bergasa kepada Bangsa dan Negara

Filosofinya bagus dan bisa jadi pedoman yang berharga, bagus klo presiden negara kita kelak bisa memiliki kedelapan watak ini.

 

ANC, preface

In order to reduce noise signal(engine noise, cooling fan, etc), usually people using barrier such as foam, wall,etc. This conventional method no longer efficient.

ANC(Active Noise Control) is way to reduce noise signal using the opposite of that noise signal(anti-noise signal), based on wave superposition principle. If there is a noise source, we need  sensor(s) such as microphone(to detect the noise signal), then (as transformation of the signal done by sensor,pressure to electric) ANC will process those signal to generate the anti-noise signal and finally transform it  back into pressure form by speaker.

There is two methods of ANC, Single channel and Multichannel. Single channel uses single sensor, and single speaker to perform the cancellation. This method effective when the noise reduction use in one directional wave propagation(e.g. Pipe). Multichannel uses several sensors and speakers. This method  cancel noise signal effectively on three dimensional space(example, in a room or cabin).

 

July 21, 2008

What a difference a day makes ~Jamie Cullum

What a difference a day makes
Twenty-four little hours
Brought the sun and the flowers
Where there used to be rain

My yesterday was blue, dear
Today I’m part of you, dear
My lonely nights are through, dear
Since you said you were mine

What a difference a day makes
There’s a rainbow before me
Skies above can’t be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss

It’s heaven when you
Find romance on your menu
What a difference a day makes
And the difference is you

What a difference a day makes
There’s a rainbow before me
Skies above can’t be stormy
Since that moment of bliss, that thrilling kiss

It’s heaven when you
Find romance on your menu
What a difference a day makes
And the difference is you.

comment: one of my favorit songs, makes me remember about she who owns my heart.hehe..

 

~intro

More than a year, i’ve considered to write a blog. Many advantages, such as, organizing our ideas, write practicing, etc, could achieve by blogging. Well, for the beginning let me introduce myself

Mein name ist Andika, ich bin schuler under ITB in Elektronikingeieurin, Spezialitaet:Control. Ich sprache indonesisch, englisch, deutsch, und boso jowo.

*due to my limited capability using deutsch, i think it’s better not to write much in deutsch, it’ll only embarassed myself, hehe*

As you can see, i’m having deutsch kurs on Goethe, first level, and it has going not so good. Recent issue is few days ago, the teacher was giving latest test results and i scored 6.3. Not so good but not too bad, i can say, hehe. (based on average class score). However, my classmate, (sitting next to me) had scored 9. FYI, he is senior high school on first year, and he has innocent face*this is an important information*. So, after he knew that he had better score than me, he lumped his hand and said to me “yeahhh!!”

Wow! hold on kid, let’s see who laugh later, you chose a wrong enemy, hahaha..

However, he is a nice,innocent(again this is important) and smart kid*like i used to be before i met my evil friends*.

i believe there are many grammar faults in my post, but i have to start practicing and learning.

vielen dank.